Through the Eyes of Others

Remarkably, there is one way in which we are all alike, and although it is die source of much conflict between individuals, ironically it is also fliat which permits us to predict the behavior of others  

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Analyze and Design Behavior through the Eyes of Others The last... 

To start a useful dialog on human relations we must forget about your favorite person—you—and try to look at life through the eyes of others. This is the one axiom of human relations, but a number of theorems and corollaries follow directly from it. In particular, we must consider the role of praise and criticism as well as the importance of asking questions in dealing with others. 

Although the principle of seeing things through the eyes of others is straight-... 

Nowhere is the importance of seeing things through the eyes of others more evident than in analyzing the typical disagreement. Sometimes disagreements occur because two (or more) individuals truly have an irreconcilable difference of opinion, but more often than not, one or more of the parties has not taken the time to view the situation from the opposing side. 

Beyond the desire to be understood and listened to, each of us loves to be praised. Children adore the praise of their parents. Spouses crave the praise of each other. Workers crave the praise of bosses and co-workers. Despite our ravenous appetite for praise, we are remarkably stingy in handing it out of course, this represents a remarkable breakdown in our seeing things through the eyes of others (Carnegie, 1981). 

I am quick to my defense. Point (a) encapsulation. The spreadsheet as a whole, seen through the eyes of users (including other programs driving it through an API), does exactly what the spec leads them to expect. They won t know the difference. This is encapsulation, something that is also mentioned in about 150 different books, I point out. 

Rope Hose Tool A piece of rope spliced to form a loop through the eye of a metal hook. Used for securing hose to ladders or other objects. 

When loved ones and friends consider you mentally ill, without even caring to look into your situation, it s above all very hurtful. It s painful because apparendy they don t consider you important enough to find out more about your situation, even through a book, brochure or movie. When you re a happy person with both feet on the ground and (in the eyes of others as well) a stable personality, it s odd to discover how easily people can dismiss you as psychotic. People tend to judge others too quickly and don t take the effort to inform themselves about the person or the thing they are judging. 

In the area of workplace harassment or the prevention of a hostile work environment, safety professionals should be aware that what may be considered to be horseplay by some may be considered workplace harassment to others. The harassment is viewed through the eyes of the employee being harassed. Although most safety professionals do not permit any type of horseplay in their operations, it is important for safety professionals to be aware of other activities, such as name calling, practical jokes, and other similar activities that may also create a hostile work environment for an individual employee who is protected under the ADEA as well as other federal antidiscrimination laws. 

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