Children self-harm

Nick may feel angry, overwhelmed, guilty or anxious. Explain self-harm isn t his fault (unless it is, e.g. child abuse). Offer him advice ... 

The harmful effects of being full of oneself can occur when the only child starts assuming too much self-importance in the family, and parents (unwilling to disappoint or cross their precious son or daughter) allow this unhealthy growth to continue. Fullness of self, if allowed to flourish with no concern for others in the family, can cause the only child to acquire an "only" attitude that is self-centered to a fault. 

Because most human characteristics are double-edged, having both beneficial and harmful potentials, even strengths have their downsides. Parents often find a self-involved and assertive only child hard to handle. "We didn t know when we encouraged him to speak his mind that we were training him to argue with us later on." "We didn t know when we supported the interests she loves that she would become so intolerant of doing what she doesn t like."... 

When substance abuse causes the child to suspend caring, act harmfully to self or others, and abuse freedoms that... 

Codependency describes what happens to the conduct of communication, the definition of roles, and the interactions between family members when the dominant power in the family becomes the substance abuser or addict. When it is the child who has fallen victim to substances, parents increasingly depend their decisions, for how to feel, what to think, and what to do, on the child s self-destructive behavior. In consequence, parents experience at least three harmful effects. 

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